Three months ago my wife and I swapped roles after I was made redundant. I made hundreds of attempts to find another job as a manager but failed, so my wife gave up being a full-time mum and went out to work. This blog is a chronicle of life-change and how I cope with being a very reluctant housedad to my nine-year-old stepdaughter and our two sons, aged six and three, and how my Successful Other Half copes with the fallout…
I read this article in the paper the other morning:
‘The daily chores that mothers do in their daily lives is worth a staggering £30,000 a year. Mothers without jobs put in on average 14 hours a day cooking, cleaning, and carrying out childcare. Even with each job performed for the minimum wage of £5.93, the total figure amounts to £30,373.20 a year – higher than the average salary.’
This news came as something of a blessed relief to my dented ego after I turned down a job at the beginning of this week. The job I was offered would have paid a little more than £30k for 37.5 hours a week so I felt I was looking a thirty thousand pound gift horse in the mouth. And then I read that we stay-at-homes are earning at least that through all the carrying and fetching we do to keep our families clean and fed. What’s more, we’re at it for 98.5 hours a week. Every week. Forever. About the same time it would take Professor Brian Cox to run out of superlatives.
But hang on a minute, I hear you say, the article talks about MUMS, not housedads. What’s a housedad worth, then? So I had a look back at the activities of one RHDYT (that’s Reluctant Housedad Yours Truly) and came up with the following non scientific results. These have yet to be verified by She-Who-Makes-All-The-Decisions-Calls-All-The-Shots-And-Tells-Me-What-To-Do, but she doesn’t read this (‘I’m too busy earning money to look at your self pitying ramblings’) so you’ll just have to take my word for it. Continue reading